June 6, 2015
Well, big news yesterday!! Our clinic called and we have a probable match. All the fine details need to be worked out, but if all goes according to plan, we may be adopting three beautiful little embies come August or September.
A couple is donating 7 embryos, and they are splitting them, four to a couple ahead of us in line, and three to us. God was shining down, they are three fully hatched blasts that come from a donor egg situation and have all been genetically tested. The odds of hatched blasts? Slim. The odds of embryos from a healthy, young donor egg? Slim. The odds of genetically tested embryos? Slim. The odds of all three? Nearly impossible.
Why does this all excite me so? Here's a breakdown. When a couple does IVF, a certain percentage of the eggs fertilize. Of those, some go on the grow and by day three some have arrested. Of those, some of those typically arrest by day 5. Of those, some have cells that aren't grouped correctly or may not hatch. ALL of these are hatched.
Why am I excited it was a donor egg? Many couples who go through IVF have their own set of fertility issues. Some are from older women where the eggs may not be as young. As women age, there is a higher risk that there are genetic abnormalities in the eggs. A bleak statistic is 80-90% of eggs women over 40 have aren't "good eggs." You know how I feel about statistics. I throw that out the window. I think it has more to do with overall health, but the reality is, when you're in your 20s, your eggs are more healthy.
The genetically tested? That REALLY gets me excited because we've already ruled out most genetic issues the embryos could have. Most miscarriages are caused because the embryos have genetic issues that impede implantation or correct development. Knowing the embryos don't have those issues, increases the chances of a live, healthy birth significantly.
I'll keep you posted how all this unfolds. For now, it's an exciting possibility.
I went back to TCM today. As expected, my pulse was a bit wiry. They were concerned if I'd been dealing with some emotional things or was tired. Well, yes to both. My husband has been traveling five days a week and although I'm relieved and feel blessed for the work, anyone can tell you that leaves some pressures and stresses to the parent at home who also works full time. Is what it is. I'll just keep trying to relax.
They also stressed that I need to eat more. More fats. More proteins. So, I have to concentrate on that as well. The acupuncture itself was fine. I had to chuckle. I know I've talked about what a character my male doctor is. He came in midway through my session and said, "Emily, are you Mormon." You'd be surprised how often I get asked that! I said, "No, why?" "Just wondering," and he left.
I inquired after why he asked. My friend who introduced me to him is Mormon and he went on to tell me that he used to be Mormon. The missionaries in Taiwan were the ones who taught him English. I swear this man has done everything. Black belt, pizza restaurant owner, Ex-Mormon, now Buddhist chanter, meditator and acupuncturist TCM. I love his stories!
I told him about the EA and he was confused. He thought I was attempting IVF and was trying to tell me not to waste my money right now, I wasn't ready. Once he understood it wouldn't be my eggs, he said I should want my own child. Erm. Thanks for input. I laugh it off. It's generational and cultural. He DID say however that if we go that route, they can help us with the transfer and "holding" the baby there.
All in all, is what it is. I'm home, about to make a big ole protein smoothie and catch up with work before my son wakes from his nap.
I feel good about things though. I feel like there is no pressure. If we conceive, awesome. If not, knowing we have 3 possible embryos is exciting. My husband and I both knew right away this was right for us, because we were elated with the call. It's moving faster for us than they typical couple I imagine because we had no preference for ethnicity, so we jumped in front of quite a few waiting couples. For us, a healthy baby is our priority.
We'll see if my ovaries get antsy and make one last Hail Mary ;)
God Bless!
Well, big news yesterday!! Our clinic called and we have a probable match. All the fine details need to be worked out, but if all goes according to plan, we may be adopting three beautiful little embies come August or September.
A couple is donating 7 embryos, and they are splitting them, four to a couple ahead of us in line, and three to us. God was shining down, they are three fully hatched blasts that come from a donor egg situation and have all been genetically tested. The odds of hatched blasts? Slim. The odds of embryos from a healthy, young donor egg? Slim. The odds of genetically tested embryos? Slim. The odds of all three? Nearly impossible.
Why does this all excite me so? Here's a breakdown. When a couple does IVF, a certain percentage of the eggs fertilize. Of those, some go on the grow and by day three some have arrested. Of those, some of those typically arrest by day 5. Of those, some have cells that aren't grouped correctly or may not hatch. ALL of these are hatched.
Why am I excited it was a donor egg? Many couples who go through IVF have their own set of fertility issues. Some are from older women where the eggs may not be as young. As women age, there is a higher risk that there are genetic abnormalities in the eggs. A bleak statistic is 80-90% of eggs women over 40 have aren't "good eggs." You know how I feel about statistics. I throw that out the window. I think it has more to do with overall health, but the reality is, when you're in your 20s, your eggs are more healthy.
The genetically tested? That REALLY gets me excited because we've already ruled out most genetic issues the embryos could have. Most miscarriages are caused because the embryos have genetic issues that impede implantation or correct development. Knowing the embryos don't have those issues, increases the chances of a live, healthy birth significantly.
I'll keep you posted how all this unfolds. For now, it's an exciting possibility.
I went back to TCM today. As expected, my pulse was a bit wiry. They were concerned if I'd been dealing with some emotional things or was tired. Well, yes to both. My husband has been traveling five days a week and although I'm relieved and feel blessed for the work, anyone can tell you that leaves some pressures and stresses to the parent at home who also works full time. Is what it is. I'll just keep trying to relax.
They also stressed that I need to eat more. More fats. More proteins. So, I have to concentrate on that as well. The acupuncture itself was fine. I had to chuckle. I know I've talked about what a character my male doctor is. He came in midway through my session and said, "Emily, are you Mormon." You'd be surprised how often I get asked that! I said, "No, why?" "Just wondering," and he left.
I inquired after why he asked. My friend who introduced me to him is Mormon and he went on to tell me that he used to be Mormon. The missionaries in Taiwan were the ones who taught him English. I swear this man has done everything. Black belt, pizza restaurant owner, Ex-Mormon, now Buddhist chanter, meditator and acupuncturist TCM. I love his stories!
I told him about the EA and he was confused. He thought I was attempting IVF and was trying to tell me not to waste my money right now, I wasn't ready. Once he understood it wouldn't be my eggs, he said I should want my own child. Erm. Thanks for input. I laugh it off. It's generational and cultural. He DID say however that if we go that route, they can help us with the transfer and "holding" the baby there.
All in all, is what it is. I'm home, about to make a big ole protein smoothie and catch up with work before my son wakes from his nap.
I feel good about things though. I feel like there is no pressure. If we conceive, awesome. If not, knowing we have 3 possible embryos is exciting. My husband and I both knew right away this was right for us, because we were elated with the call. It's moving faster for us than they typical couple I imagine because we had no preference for ethnicity, so we jumped in front of quite a few waiting couples. For us, a healthy baby is our priority.
We'll see if my ovaries get antsy and make one last Hail Mary ;)
God Bless!
