Sometimes God has a different path in store for us. After being diagnosed with POF, I set out on a journey to "repair" my body and get pregnant naturally. Somewhere along the line, although pristine health and self care is my goal, the necessity to "prove" the doctors wrong became less important and we sought the perfect solution to grow our family. We decided on Embryo Donation / Adoption. Read about our journey. Blessings!

Acu update, Spotting and Investigating Adoption

Oct. 30, 2014

Well, onwards and upwards. It was back to TCM today to share with them the "period" and my new labs. They were happy with the progress. Although they'd have liked heavier blood flow, something is better than nothing. My sentiments exactly. My pulse was a bit stronger today, and nice and strong after my session.

She told me a peculiar thing though. To keep my feet warm. I had no idea that could alter a menstrual cycle, but she showed me how she always wore pantyhose even with sandals because your feet should always stay warm. Out of curiosity, I googled it. Apparently when you bleed you are most vulnerable so TCM says to not go barefoot and avoid swimming in cold water. Here is a link.

https://www.acufinder.com/Acupuncture+Information/Detail/ABCs+of+Fertility+Acupuncture,+Babies,+Chinese+Medicine+-+Part+1

I go around barefoot all the time, so I guess I'll be more conscious of that. I do love my slippers in the winter though, so just another excuse to get my annual pair of Snoozies. Have you tried this things?? You will fall in love.

My session was definitely more relaxed today. I was early, no stressors and I could just lay there. It heart like the dickens though. I won't like. The needles over my ovaries felt like daggers going in! "Hurt?" she asked. "Yes!!" I asked if it was because I was bleeding and she said yes. I'm very sensitive right now because of it. Sweet sassy molassy! She was right!

She was also happy with my labs. Although no beautiful numbers, they were drastically better than last time. And the beauty is, it was done naturally coaxing my body back into health without meds to mask symptoms. I like that.

Something else I feel I should share, full disclosure and all, is I started sending away for information on adoption. The cost of it all makes me want to cry, but we've never been opposed to adopting. I found a few nice Christian agencies (not that we are opposed to others, but these are non profit and I've moral issues with going some of the larger ones that work for profit) in this area. Some of which foster to adopt.

Fostering to adopt is something I'm not certain we want. The big reason - my heart can only handle so much heartache and bringing a child into our family that could leave would devastate me.

Adopting costs upwards of $35,000. A lot of agencies look a lot lower until you read into the "additional" costs. An adoption that looks to be $25,000 after the agency "fees" in usually about $10,000 more. It's all very overwhelming.

I did email our accountant though to discuss the adoption tax credits and how they are applied, so I do know we could get tax dollars back the year it is finalized. There are also numerous grants for me to research if we do decide to proceed in this direction.

There is also the adoption to adopt an embryo. I know my doctors had told me DE IVF, which is donor egg IVF with the egg fertilized with my husbands sperm, but I didn't realize how many families have undergone IVF and are putting their other embies up for adoption. I like that. Because otherwise, those little babes would never have a chance. But again, it is about a $10,000 fee to adopt them (none of which goes to the family by the way - just the agencies!!) and then you pay for the IVF procedure.

The funny thing is, before I never wanted to look seriously into the matter because I felt I was "giving" up on conceiving, but now all of a sudden, I don't feel that way at all. I feel very at peace with we will have another biological child, but this whole journey, with all my prayer, has also given me a certain peace bringing a child into our home another way. I just wish it wasn't so much money. It's staggering really.

So, after all that rambling, I don't know if adoption is a realistic avenue for our family, but I want to research it as best I can. I know we've a spot in our heart and family for a child. I've an odd peace we will conceive and have a healthy baby, but I've always been a bit type "A" in preparing for every outcome.

So, it is CD5 and I'm very optimistic this cycle. I feel good. I'm encouraged my estrogen levels are higher increasing my odds to ovulate, and I'm ensuring I eat well, get good rest and do my best to center myself mentally and spiritually.

Since I KNEW I had not ovulated recently and am not pregnant, I started my castor oil pack yesterday. I did it while I was working. Thankfully my husband was at class, otherwise I'm sure he'd have given me a strange look to come down stairs and find me without pants sitting on a garbage bag (to catch castor oil) with a pack sitting on my stomach! I also started taking my evening primrose and red raspberry leaf tea again. I never do when I even think I may have ovulated because I want to avoid uterine contractions.

I also got an early Christmas present. A nutribullet!! I've been juicing for the past few months, but my motor was shot and it's been tough to schedule with my friend juicing, so I researched different options and decided on the nutribullet because I think drinking the fiber is important too. So, I've been downing my organic veggies for easy absorption the past few days. Nice thing is, my family is hooked too, so it's a good way to get a variety of vitamins and minerals down the hatch. I know proper eating is essential to fertility!!

I've also been listening to Nerida Walker a lot. I play her in the background while I work to center myself when I need to. I think her ministry is amazing!

Off topic, I've continued making my homemade items and I'm falling in love with all of them. My sister-in-law has been doing the same. We've tossed around the idea of starting to sell some small scale to see how people like them. Who knew all these health problems would open so many doors, right? She has three kids and we're both adamant we give our kids the best outlook at a healthy future. I don't want my child to ever suffer health problems from exposure to toxins like I have. I know they come into contact with thousands a day, so if I can do a small part to limit that, you can be assured I will!

God Bless!


CD3 (maybe?) Test

Oct. 29, 2014

Well, I'm not certain it was truly CD3 yesterday, but given I have been spotting since last Thursday evening and had about a two hour flow of blood, I decided this was as close as I was getting to a cycle for now and decided to call my doctor for the test to look at hormones. It's so funny because I'd been dreading do it, but my TCM requested it on Thursday and I started spotting. Talk about God nudging me, huh? When all is said and done, I prayed and felt that I could peacefully handle the news, good or bad, and it was what was medically needed to continue treatment with my TCM.

Drum roll please...

Hormones upon diagnosis last Jan.

HCG - 7
FSH - 136
LH - 98
Estradiol - <12

Hormones yesterday Oct 28, 2014

HCG - 1
FSH - 48
LH - not taken CD3, but OPK is negative
Estradiol - 89

So, huge improvement right?

The one side of me was a bit bummed because it still is within "POF" levels, but the other side (the angel on my shoulder) is reminding me that my body has healed tremendously.

If I want to really analyze, CD3 numbers on this, as grim as they appear are better than what they were. HOWEVER, if it was an anovulatory cycle and these aren't true CD3 numbers, that is better news for me yet as any other time in the cycle these numbers could feasibly be that high even for women without POF. I'm making a conscious decision to not analyze it anymore.

For CD3, doctors like to see FSH below 9 and estradiol below 80. If above 80, it could artificially suppress the FSH number slightly. It's funny, I wanted a higher estradiol last time because it was 0 and I essentially had no estrogen in my body, so in a way, I'm glad it's higher, I just wish it were later in my cycle.

And, my levels before were POSTmenopausal and are now technically Perimenopausal (under 50) so THAT is improvement, right?? So, I've hormones more of an upper 40 / early 50 year old versus a 120 year old. Talk about winding back the clock, eh?

So, from here, I'll bring my numbers to my TCM tomorrow or Saturday depending on my husband's work schedule. I guess we just proceed with what we are doing. It seems to be working, I feel great and have no POF symptoms. I just wish it didn't come at such a high price tag. It's really been taking a toll on us financially.

At this point, I just truly do have to trust and have faith in a miracle. As much as I want to "will" it to happen, God is in control, and I trust him and him alone. It gives me comfort because if I had to trust myself to make it happen, I know my faith would falter. It's easier putting my faith in God above.

As for me emotionally, I'm going in and out of being at peace with it, and just being a bit emotional. I'm having my fair shake of "it's not fair" and "why is this happening to me" but this time, it's not nearly as devastating. Far more than those moments, I have a calm about me that things are indeed improving, and I've an odd peace that it will all work out. It will be fine.

God Bless!

Spotting and Bleeding

Oct. 26, 2014

Well, the spotting has continued, and then today (sorry for TMI) when I used the restroom there was red blood. Not a ton, but it was there, and a bit heavier than what I'd been spotting since Thursday evening. So, good news, right?

I was looking at my chart, and when I'd thought I'd ovulated 12-14 days ago, I may actually have. If that is in fact the case, that means my LP has lengthened to 11-13 days, which would put me back to what it was pre-pregnancy. Even if I didn't ovulate, with my erratic temps, I really can't say yes for sure (I do think I did though) I'm glad to put this cycle behind me, and I've high hopes my body is getting into gear again.

Now, I ran upstairs and put in my Sckoon cup (the menstrual cup I ordered five months ago that I've never gotten to use) and was quite impressed I got it in first try. My confusion...when I took it out, granted only three or four hours later or so, there was only brown blood and only a teensy tiny bit.

So, I either had a puny endometrial lining, or my flow will increase tomorrow.

Either way, I refuse to be discouraged by any of it. Frankly, I'm not broken, and that is all the hope I need :)

I keep repeating my scripture. NONE SHALL BE BARREN!

Amen!

Back to Acu and Herbs

Oct. 24, 2014

This morning I woke up, and although I intended to take an HPT and OPK because I was heading in to acupuncture, I completely forgot. It's been nice not worrying about that stuff. I did take one with second morning urine before I left, and Hallelujah, Praise God, the HPT AND OPK WERE NEGATIVE!!! Why do I get so excited by that? It's been FIVE MONTHS (!!) since both were negative. That means great things for my hormones!

That was where my excitement ended for the day. I went in yesterday for an appointment with my TCM. I was a bit disheartened that although she said my pulses were ok, they were a bit weaker than my last visit. I feel though in context, I should rewind and give a brief overview of my week.

Without going into mind numbing detail, my husband almost lost his job this week so my stress level was a bit high to say the very least. Someone at work had falsely accused him of some things and while the "investigation" was underway, tensions were high in the household. That was resolved Weds evening.

Thursday was my appointment and it was honestly just one of those mornings where everything just was going wrong. It took me 25 minutes to get milk at the grocery store because of a faulty cash register. I was late getting on the road. Traffic was horrendous. I had a deadline to be home for my husband's workshop at school, and to top it off my TCM forgot about me. I called them and they hussled over, but my leisurely hour and a half appointment was reduced to 35 minutes.

When they read my pulse, I was frayed. As they started going on about how I should have my levels retested with the doctor because although I'm better than when I started, my channels will get stronger, than a bit weaker, than stronger, etc, but never up to perfect. Because it's been 9 months, they wanted to see the progress I'm making, I officially blurted out "Can my pulse be reading lower than it is from stress? I keep looking at the clock and I need to leave in 40 minutes."

Wide eyed they hussled me into the room and started poking me with needles as I frantically texted my husband to see if there was a workshop later in the afternoon he could take. Nope. Ugh.

She asked her questions and looked at my tongue while poking me.

To say I was trying desperately to hold back tears in an understatement. As soon as she walked out, they started pouring down my face. The gravity of what she said hit me. It's been nine months and they are feeling frustrated by lack of progress. She came back in to ask me how my appetite has been and I know she saw the tears. She didn't quite know what to say, and I felt like an idiot.

This session I kept repeating the mantra "I am healthy. I am healed" as I took deep breaths and reminding myself of some scripture passages that deal with fertility and fruitfulness. As it neared my 35 minutes, because that was all that time allowed, I was feeling a bit calmer about things. She came in to take my pulse and her eyes got wide, she gave me a smile and said "Better. Better. Good. It's good!"

We went back in the other room where I would pay and get my herbs and she told her husband, who translated to me that my pulse was a LOT stronger after my session. The circulation was much better and much stronger. They encouraged me to keep doing yoga and exercising to increase my circulation to get better blood flow to my reproductive organs, and I hustled out the door to fight traffic home with a new batch of herbs and to return next week for acupuncture.

The herbs this week are not pleasant. Sometimes it has a sweeter smell to it, but this batch smells more medicinal. It almost tastes like there is celery seed in there, but much stronger. Some batches are easier to swallow than others. This is not one of them.

I was feeling overly emotional and frustrated yesterday but I really took a moment to center myself yesterday. I feel good. I feel healthy. I've been praying and trusting and having faith this last month and it has brought me incredible peace and strength. Why was I letting my "natural" and "medical" circumstances doubt what I know to be true in my heart. I've put the negative feelings to the side and have decided to keep reminding myself and declaring to the universe, to God and everyone else that I am healed.

Last night, I started spotting. Just a tiny bit. I'm not entirely sure if that means my period is coming, or just breakthrough spotting again, but seeing my body "work" is such a wonderful thing.

In terms of my cycle, I still don't know what's happening. My temp today for instance was 97.18 at 4:10 am when I work, but I took it again at 6 am out of curiosity and it was 97.86. Make me wonder if my chart looks so erratic because the last week or so, some days I've been able to sleep until 5:15 or 5:30 which may inflate my temperatures more than I thought. If I use the BBT adjuster to allow for temping at different times, it isn't that wide a gap. My body just must run low until it hits a certain point in the morning.

So, nothing new to report really. I keep debating if I want to have the doctors run more tests. I know I don't want it midcycle because my LH and FSH will always look inflated then...they would with any woman. If I start my period, I may consider it on CD3, which is when all hormonal testing should be taken. But, in all honesty, I don't know if I want it. Will a medical measurement bring me peace or anxiety and stress? Part of me wants to just trust, know and believe that it will happen and not have any news that makes me doubt it. But, just hearing myself say that shows I must have doubt about what the numbers will present.

Anyway, I'm undecided. I see so many woman in these support groups agonize over their numbers and I can't imagine the stress being good.

God Bless!


Cycle Day 142

Oct. 19, 2014

Well, two people in two days have contacted me for updates, so I feel as though it's high time I post here.

There isn't a whole lot to report. Today officially marks the 142nd day of this cycle. I'm part of a mom group who has a 2ww (two week wait) thread on Facebook and several of the girls who I started it with are entering their third trimesters now, which is rather eye opening. Heck, several are finding out the sex of their baby since my last period. Oct. 31 will be five months of this unending cycle. THAT is crazy to me. Several moms pop on to the thread only to get pregnant the first month. It thrills me, but sometimes I just shake my head and think "if only I were that lucky!!"

I try not to let that get me down though. Although I didn't try very long for my son, I'm well aware had I gotten pregnant one or two months before I did, I wouldn't have this amazing little guy in my life, so when I DO get pregnant, I know it will be the right time then too.

My TCM doctor is still in China. She returns tomorrow I believe and they start seeing patients on the 22nd. Right now, my appointment is Saturday, but if my husband has some days off this week, I will try to get in sooner. My herbs should last another two days or so. I added vitamin C to the mix as it's support to be a super fertility antioxidant and elongate the LP.

I'm trying to remember if I updated you that I'm back on maca. I started back on it a month ago and it seems like it's helped things. I also added bee propolis back in, but only twice a week. I know the royal jelly was warming (which I only take every other day) but I know the propolis is suppose to be good, so I started small. The resveratrol the TCM suggested seems to be working great, or maybe it's just things were evening out already, but I'm keeping with it.

The good news is, my HPT's are still stark white, which is excellent. The OPKs are still dark, but the last time I tested, I had fertile signs. I'm only testing every 10-14 days now. My temps have actually been high the past few days. I did miss a day because my son woke up with a nightmare at 3:30 and by the time I got him to sleep, it was silly to try and temp an hour later when he woke. We'll see what happens over the next week or so.

My new philosophy has really been "Let go and let God" and to tell you the truth, I feel more at ease that way.

Although I can do the things I feel God directs me to do like take care of my body with exercise, organic diet, less toxins, and taking nourishing herbs and supplements, I obviously can't "will" my body to pop out an egg (or that would have happened over a year ago) so why obsess over it. The reality is, it will take a MIRACLE to get pregnant. It's a good thing I believe in miracles. I really have a calm about things and faith that God will provide.

I did order all my goods to start my homemade items which I'm excited to try. I'm particularly pumped to make my magnesium body butter. Many people have magnesium insufficiencies, those with POF in particular. Because POF has high risk of osteoporosis, it's important to get adequate calcium, vitamin D and to ensure it's being absorbed. Magnesium does that. It also, from what I read, helps you sleep. I'm going to make a batch up and spread it on my feet before bed. My sister in law did a body butter with cocoa butter and added peppermint which is genius. Chocolate peppermint anyone??

I also got all the goods for my chapstick, lotions, shampoo, conditioner, mouthwash and sunscreen. I actually gave a sample of my deodorant to a friend and she fell in love with it. She's pushing me to open my own business. It's a bit daunting to me, so I told her I'd start just by making stuff for friends if they want it. I was happy to hear that she loved it and said it worked for her better than any retail variety.

All in all, I'm feeling really good. I had a few sleepless nights, but it was more concern for my sick baby and work/ financial concerns. I just had a wonderful weekend full of family fun and am so incredibly grateful for all the blessings surrounding me.




An athletic "Old" lady

Oct. 2, 2014

October already? How did this happen?

Well, I had my first dentist appointment since starting my own toothpaste regimen. And although I needed a minor filling along my gum line for over brushing (receded gum line that was exposing a nerve) he said my teeth looked excellent and very white. First time he'd actually said "very white." My gums were exceptionally healthy. I didn't have the heart to tell him I was making my own.

Side note - I read an interesting and scary article last night about how horrible some toothpastes and cleansers are to the environment. Check it out. I'm a Michigander, so very scary stuff.

http://www.freep.com/story/news/local/michigan/2014/09/18/great-lakes-pollution-microbeads-soap/15817501/

Also at the dentist this morning, they checked my blood pressure. 98 over 53 which is standard for me, but if you look at the blood pressure chart, that is where an athlete is.

So, hormones of a 120 year old decrepit woman, vitals of a young athlete. Go figure.

I also want to show off my pedicure. I haven't painted my nails since January because of all the chemicals in nail polish, but my husband's friend is the owner of piggy paints and I love the idea. And really, who says adults can't use the stuff, right??



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Other than that, still plodding along. I'm still reading that excellent book, It is Finished by Nerida Walker, taking my herbs and keeping up with my yoga and meditation. Before my appointment, I did take a HPT in case since I knew they were x-raying and the positive was fainter. The OPK was in your face and my other fertile signs are a go. We'll see what happens.

God Bless